Three entries in one

[second_banana]

I've been meaning to update for a while, but I keep getting distracted.

First entry:

I keep having really really weird dreams. Most of them start out really well, all warm and fuzzy. But then they become unsettling. Not really scary just... troublesome. Like the one where a good friend purposefully dropped a spider on me while I was in bed and then started teasing me when I was shaking. Or the one where I was trying to get to another friend, but kept getting pulled away by someone who I didn't want to see. Ick. Not sure what they are about, but I'm sure I'll piece it together eventually.

Second Entry:

One of my friends just got engaged. She is now looking for words of wisdom about relationships/marriage/weddings etc. So here I go posting all the "gems" my parents gave me.


End up with someone who...

1. makes you laugh.
2. you like to hear laugh.
3. has low expectations.
4. you like to listen to.
5. has a good sense of humor.
6. you want to see naked.
7. buys you a plug for your sink. (Mom had been complaining about the sink for weeks, so that's what she got for Christmas.)
8. can cook. (If you can't)
9. can fend for themselves.
10. you trust to buy a car.


Third Entry:

How the crap do you write sex scenes? I have two stories in the works that both require more than the 'fade to black' scenario. I've gotten right up to the point and my brain just shuts down. When I try to write I get too bogged down in the technicalities of writing that I can't tell if the effect I'm going for will be there at all. It's quite frustrating. It doesn't help that one of them is het and good examples of het are freaking hard to find. I don't want cheesy romance novel style or Letters to Penthouse. Sigh.

Alright, that's done with. I hope you all have been having good weeks. If not, I hope you have a better weekend. With cookies and snuggles.

~Susan

Comments

[nutnatz.livejournal.com]

I don't remember my dreams.* shrug*

Marriage seems a long way off for me. I'm in the stage of finding someone who is interested in fooling around. :-p

hmm.. sex scenes.

Well I know that one thing that has helped a bit with that is reading stuff during role playing. I think that i've improved a lot because of it.

I dunno if this will help, but I've realised that with writting sex scenes, less is more. You know how it is watching a really erotic scence, where there are just... looks and touches, hands and gripping and open mouths in pleasure. That's much more... effective than standard porn, isn't it? It's the same thing with writting. The he did, then she did thing doesn't work... somtimes it's all about the emotion during the act, you know.

One other suggestion is to avoid refering to genitilia, in any form. It cheapens it sometimes when you are reading something and the word COCK jumps out at you.

[second-banana.livejournal.com]

Hmm... those are useful suggestions.

I agree with the genitilia for the most part. It depends on the sort of sex you're writing. If all of a sudden there are naughty bits flapping about for no reason, then it shoud be left out. But if it's a pretty hardcore scene already the word cock doesn't seem out of place at all.

[nutnatz.livejournal.com]

I also have exibited my inablity to spell writing.

:-D

And yes, that's true. But I didn't think you wanted to write Hardcore.. if you did, cock on my sister. Cock.On.

[elvensorceress.livejournal.com]

I wouldn't put a spider on you.

[second-banana.livejournal.com]

Nope. You're good like that. Though "Susan, don't move" have become a suspect phrase. I still like you though.

[cygnusdrache.livejournal.com]

i like the list -

having just broke up with my boyfriend of 5 years, #1,3,8,9 & 10 were never anything i could claim about him - makes me feel better to see that.

[second-banana.livejournal.com]

Well I'm glad you liked it. Numbers 1 & 3 I'm told all the time by my parents.

The typical exchange is something like, "Oh, you brought in the trash can."

"Yup." *kiss* "Susan, remember: marry someone with low expectations."

They are freaking adorable some days.

[heartofslash.livejournal.com]

Hey, I got everything on your list! (That would explain the 20 years thing...)

How to write sex scenes:

Errrr. Ummmmm. Welllllllll...

I don't know. No differently than you would write anything else. If you get hung up on the fact that there is sex going on, then you won't be able to portray the action honestly, and all that people are going to notice is your hang-ups, not the sex. So just write it the way you would write anything. But with different adjectives. *snerk*

(And if you're embarrassed or nervous about something, pretend you aren't.)

Also, exactly like when you had to get up and say that speech in front of your whole school, pretend everyone in the audience is only wearing their underwear. (And that a bunch of them have their hands down their panties because of what you wrote.)

That oughta do it.

[second-banana.livejournal.com]

hehehe. You are so helpful. I think my major hang up about writing sex is that I am so much more tactile than verbal. I can feel what I want the characters to be feeling, I know exactly what each touch should be. I just have trouble getting the words to match up. I have this trouble whenever I have to write something I have a strong sense memory (or image) of. Grrr.

*wanders off to poke at HectorMuse*

P.S. You always seem so in love whenever you talk about your partner. It makes me feel good about the world that people like you are in it.

[bunnymcfoo.livejournal.com]

How do I manage to write smut? *wry* I turn bright pink and take forever. Just ask anyone I've been writing with on the Eagle's Nest RPG.


honestly, the two things I've found that help me (okay, three) are reading a LOT of smut and then thinking about what I liked or disliked about how it was written, not thinking too much about the actual physicality of it, and three (and possibly most practical) is get a damn stiff drink.

I too am insane with the tactileness (ask Kat if you believe this not. I touch for grounding purposes almost as much as I breathe. Just little things, but I also cuddle and snuggle and pet just because I LIKE that, and bah.) I was saying something here...oh! yeah! I think you're right, it's hard to match the words up with sensations that you're getting echoes from. Um. Hi. It's late, I'm babbling at you. Stopping now! And stepping away from the keyboard....